Don’t you just HATE it when this happens?

Say there’s a woman that you’re trying to get out of the friend zone with, and rest assured you are trying your darndest to succeed. Sometimes, you feel like you’re so close.. But there are other times when she acts like a complete cold fish while you have no idea what you did wrong.

Either that, or she could be giving off ALL THE RIGHT SIGNALS that you should be going for the close, yet she keeps on saying that she just wants to be friends.

Why do women do this? Unfortunately, we will never know. We could assume that they enjoy toying with men, but in this instance let’s give her the benefit of the doubt. Another reason that I believe women give off mixed signals with men that are going for them because they themselves don’t know how they feel.

It’s the classic conflict between the logical and the emotional parts of the mind. They might be getting caught in the moment. Their emotional side is telling them to go for it, but for some reason or another, her logical mind is telling her not to (the best way to “convince” a woman is by approaching it from the emotional perspective, as you shall soon see).

Other “experts” might say that the best thing to do is to walk away. Yes, sometimes, that’s the only choice you have, and you should never be afraid to walk away. But to me, walking away is like folding a hand in poker: your chances of winning automatically become zero. Walking away is always my last resort — not if I think I can exhaust all possibilities to try and “win the hand.”

So what’s a guy supposed to do?

First, you need to make sure that she IS indeed giving mixed signals. There’s a chance that you could simply be reading her wrong. To be sure, observe how she acts with other male friends of hers and see if she gives off the same vibe with them. If she treats them in the same way that she treats you, then problem solved: she’s just being friendly with you. But if she acts significantly different with you than she does with other male acquaintances, then it might be the case of inner conflict with her.

If it is the latter, then I like to mirror her actions back towards her. When she’s acting all mushy and sweet towards me, I respond back — heavy. My level of touching increases (we would walk arm in arm; sometimes hand in hand), I would hug a lot more often, I’d put my arm around her, etc. My verbal flirting also increases, and I would say things like, “I always like giving you a hug during times like these” and give her a bear hug. You don’t have to be as drastic as this in the beginning, but you do need to amplify things a notch higher.

During the times that she’s “cold” however, respond back in kind. Be distant and a little aloof. Clearly, she’s not being a fun person to be around — and men will not stand for someone who drags them down, no matter who they might be. Don’t be afraid to hang up the phone (politely, of course) or cut the date short if she’s being a drag. This is how you show that you’re not afraid to walk away without walking away completely.

Over time, she will get the idea that you are open to something more than friendship, but will not stand the mixed signals. When I was dealing with an on-and-off woman before, I remember doing the exact thing I detailed above. Once we were walking hand-in-hand, and I turned to her and asked, “Hey, I wanna know something.. What is *this*?” and pointed towards our hands clasped. That’s when it came out that she liked me, but she was just confused about something.

You cannot logically convince a woman to do something about her mixed signals, because if it is confusion that she feels, then you need to address that confusion with another emotion. You need to overwhelm her with positive emotions towards you to the point that her confusion slowly goes away. Feel free to try out the mirroring strategy if you’re trying to get out of the friend zone with a woman who is the on-and-off-then-on-again type. I believe that you will see some success with this technique.

Here’s a typical scenario of how the friend zone situation is for most guys:

You meet a girl. You hit it off pretty well. You start being friends. You kinda feel that she kinda has a thing for you, but you’re too scared to make a move. You get an opportunity to take the relationship to the next level, but you’re still too scared so you don’t do anything. Time passes. You’re still friends. You have a great time whenever you’re together, and you’re closer than ever with each other. When you FINALLY do get the courage to say or do something, she delivers the ultimate blow: “I just want to be friends.”

So now you’re trying to find out how to get out of the friend zone and stay out of it, for good.

Is there any hope for you? Fortunately, the answer is a resounding “YES!”

For most guys, getting out of the friend zone usually means that you had a chance at the beginning, but then somehow, some way, for some reason or the other, YOU BLEW IT. You took a wrong turn somewhere, and ended up in the dreaded friend zone.

I’ve landed in the friend zone MANY TIMES ever since I started liking girls.

So what do you do now? Here, I’m going to share with you my simple 7-step process on how to get out of the friend zone

1.) Accept the reality of the situation. No begging or pleading for her to give you a chance. She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you, and no amount of convincing will change her mind. Instead, we’re going to approach the situation by working on her irrational and illogical side. Don’t withdraw yourself, but you’ll do much better if you start putting less focus on her and more focus on you at this stage of the process.

2.) Improve yourself. There is no single person in this world who can’t use a touch of self-improvement. Start lifting weights. Start eating healthy. Learn something new. Try out some sports. Get that adrenaline pumping through your veins. Trust me, you’ll feel much better about yourself and gain more self-confidence, and you’ll look better in the process (if you decide to work out).

3.) Have fun with other people. You cannot and should not put all your eggs in one basket, EVER. Start meeting some people. Your friends have friends who have friends of their own — work different social circles. Meet girls and learn how to flirt well. Ironically, the more women you meet, the better you will do with the girl you’re trying to escape the friend zone with. The more jealous she gets, the better.

4.) Ask her out on a Non-Date. Now the game begins. If she’s hesitant to go out with you on one-to-one basis, start asking her out on Non-Dates. A Non-Date is basically a get-together where you ask her to accompany you doing something that you would do anyway. Something like picking up some books, buying some new clothes, etc. She’s more likely to go with you than if you ask her to go to dinner.

5.) Flirt with her. The number one reason guys can’t get out of the friend zone is because they don’t realize that it’s a matter of sexual attraction; or rather, the lack of it. So start teasing her playfully. Start with playful compliments until you can eventually move on to flirting that’s more sexual in nature. If I notice that she put on some perfume, my favorite line is, “You cannot wear that perfume around me any more, because I’m afraid that one of these days I won’t be able to hold control myself and do something BAD.”

6.) Emphasize your sexuality. If you failed to make a move before, then you can’t be Mr. Touchy all of a sudden — she’ll know what your doing. Start slow with casual touches on the arm, or the small of her back. Then graduate to hugs. If she talks about other guys, then talk about other girls and be very graphic. Make sure that she knows that you are a man who doesn’t repress his sexual urges (it’s okay!).

7.) Make your move. If you do steps 5-7 well enough, you will find that you’ll be gradually escalating. Your flirting becomes more sexual by nature, she starts being touchier with you, and your dates become more serious. By the time that this happens, you have done well. To accomplish your mission of getting out of the friend zone, you MUST make your move. There is no way in hell that she is going to be making the first move, but she will be giving you hints that it’s okay to do something now. Do not be a fool and miss this second chance! When opportunity knocks, open the door and pounce on it.

And that’s it! I know it’s VERY simplified, but that’s the basic process that you must follow from beginning to end if you want to know how to get out of the friend zone. It took me many years and even more heartbreaks to finally figure it out, but that very process has worked MIRACULOUSLY for me every single time I have applied it.

If you want more details, I actually wrote a lot more on the topic. But I ended up writing so much that it cannot be covered in a single article, so I compiled them into not one, but TWO booklets. You can get them for free — I want to share the knowledge with every male in the world who wants to know how this process is done.

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